Mercedes González Amade
HAVANA TIMES — Some time ago, I wrote about how soft Cuban legislation is when it comes to child support payments by divorced parents. I mentioned the example of Carlito’s father, who has turned his back on his obligations, and my efforts to revert this situation.
Several eighbors, friends and relatives have advised me not to continue down that road, that I am only hurting my child.
Sometimes, I wonder if they’re serious. How could I harm my son teaching him to fight for his rights within the law? It’s true he doesn’t have a good opinion of his dad, but that’s not my fault. I am not the one who’s abandoned him.
His father is required to pay a very small sum of money, barely enough for my son’s public transportation needs. Despite this, he still refuses to make the monthly payments and leaves me solely responsible for buying food, clothing, footwear and even medication.
My constant demands have become a burden, the situation is exhausting, and I feel he is mocking me and the law. He has been summoned to court every 15 days in the course of nearly a year, and I have also. I always show up alone and the hearing is cancelled, and so on and so forth. Time continues to pass and my son still doesn’t get his pension. Also, no measures are taken to enforce the law.
If we sat down to wait for this money, Carlitos would starve, go barefoot or get sick all the time.
However, many people believe what I’m doing is wrong. They feel I am setting him against his father and that I should raise him in such a way that he will love him.
The way I see it, I think it’s best to continue insisting on my rights until they get tired of seeing my face. One has to look for a real solution. He has to pay everything he owes, he is obliged to support his child, a teenager who is studying, practicing sports and aspires to continue learning to become something in life.