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Irina Pino: I was born in the middle of shortages in those sixties that marked so many patterns in the world. Although I currently live in Miramar, I miss the city center with its cinemas and theaters, and the bohemian atmosphere of Old Havana, where I often go. Writing is the essential thing in my life, be it poetry, fiction or articles, a communion of ideas that identifies me. With my family and my friends, I get my share of happiness.

Dealing with Sexual Dysfunction in Men

August 4, 2017 | Print Print |

Irina Pino

HAVANA TIMES — Men don’t like talking about “this” even with their friends. They feel handicapped. They think that they have lost their masculinity and have stopped being men. Then, complexes and feelings of blame appear. Even so, they resist admitting it.

Many of us have run into people who suffer from sexual dysfunction. And our reaction is nearly always the same when we face this problem: to run away from the affected person.

Then we joke about it: “I left him because he was impotent, he’s really good-looking, but what use is that, I’d prefer him to be ugly and be able to keep it hard.”

I don’t know why men try to hide it. They hide behind silly excuses, that they are nervous or stressed, or that when we tell them to put a condom on, their member drops… these and other reasons stop them from having an erection, that’s what they say at least.

I have read that drug consumption is among the causes for erectile dysfunction. Heart disease and diabetes too. Generally-speaking, it originates from your physical state. There are men with this condition of all ages, even young men suffer from it.

I had a boyfriend with whom everything started off great but then, once he had his penis inside, he would lose his erection. He acted as if nothing unusual had happened. He used to tell me to move around a little bit and then he would get hard again, and would end up ejaculating.

I once met another guy who used to want to stick it in while it was still soft, and I told him no, that that was quite simply worse. And to top that off, the place he managed to get for our meeting was an empty apartment with a bed but no sheets, an old radio and stacked up furniture. This plus his impotency… a real disaster!

Sometimes, we women tell men that it is just a phase: “It doesn’t matter, this happens to everyone.” And then we follow it up with cuddling and kisses.

This isn’t a very good attitude to have, we have to face the problem and look for a solution. Going to specialists, doing tests… or going to a witch doctor if we have to!

I once had a boyfriend who was half impotent, because he had a leak in one of the veins in his penus. Everything was fixed with a surgical intervention.

When we met up after several years, he told me that he had gotten married and had a son. If I had carried on with him, we might have been the perfect couple because we had a million things in common and we used to get on really well.

Some of my friends have made fun of impotent guys and have told them to their faces: “You’re no good, you don’t work properly, you fix everything with your tongue…”

I think that sexual dysfunction in men can wreak havoc if measures aren’t taken. These men run the risk of being left or that their women find a replacement.


What's your opinion?

  • Eden Wong

    One of the most “Cuban” articles here in quite some time. Great attitude!

  • Bill

    Here’s to free and fair erections.

  • bbenhamid

    If a man is on High Blood pressure medication, he automatically will have problems getting an erection. Adding one pill for a sluggish prostate may kill the production of semen and definitely destroy your sex life. Use natural herbs, be patient, they take longer to kick in.

    • Carlyle MacDuff

      What a wonderful cartoon could be drawn based upon that final sentence bbenhamid.
      A beautiful lady lying on a bed naked and a man sitting playing Patience, and saying:
      “I use natural herbs, be patient, they take longer to kick in.”

  • Holguinero

    Exactly what was the point of this article? Thesis?

  • Irina: are you familiar with the phrase “jump the shark”?

  • Andy Kadir-Buxton

    Curing Premature Ejaculation By Becoming A Satyr

    In this invention I use the word satyr to describe a man capable of making love for hours at a time.

    Every man is capable of becoming a satyr,
    there is a simple method of training your body to love for hours at at
    time. To begin with, at orgasm men grind to a halt, and it is this
    barrier that has to be broken in order to become a great lover.

    So, firstly, you explain to your partner
    that you want to break through this barrier, and that it will take a few
    days to achieve.

    The next thing to do, which sounds
    simple, is to go on making love after orgasm, each time for a little
    longer. The problem is that this is painful, and I would describe it
    like belly flopping onto an ironing board, you will know what I mean
    when you try it.

    After a few days you will be through the
    barrier, and be able to make love for as long as your partner wishes, if
    you intend to do so for more than six hours run a hot bath first, by
    the time you catch fire the bath will be lukewarm.

    Now I would not have this invention on my
    website if there were not a medical spin off for it, and there is. It
    has been found to be a tool for curing premature ejaculation, which one
    in three men suffer from. Sufferers report orgasm takes longer when they
    have become a satyr, and that the length of time of making love makes
    the lot of the partner a lot happier, so why not give it a go, and
    improve your relationship exponentially?